Respect means in the first line to recognize. To respect someone is to acknowledge that he exists, that is as it is, and that, as it is also fair. This includes, in this same way, respect me too. That respect of being as they are and that, as they are, are also right.
If so I respect myself and others, give up on me a picture of how I or the other must be. Without this picture, there is no feedback about then that would be better. No artificial image is interposed between me and the more reality shows.
This can be a second thing - which belongs to the relation: I love the reality, as it shows. This means above all to love me, as they are, I love the other, as it is, and I love how we are different.
then you can also have a third thing - maybe the best thing, which belongs to respect: I welcome the fact, as it shows. I am delighted me, as they are, I welcome the other, as it is, and I welcome diversity - that I am different from him and that he is different from me. This respect
keeps his distance. Does not get into another, and even allows the other to sneak in me, to attribute something that does not concern me or have me in his image. So we can respect each other without the other one wants nothing.
If we need each other and we want something from each other, we must still pay attention to a fourth thing: we reinforce each other or inhibited in ourselves and in the its development? If we recognize that, as we are unable to develop in ourselves and in others, it brings us closer, but not respect us away. So we respect that everyone può e deve andare per la propria strada. L’amore e il rallegramento di me e dell’altro in questo modo viene piuttosto approfondito che diminuito. Perché? L’amore e il rallegramento, proprio come il rispetto, qui sono - rilassati.
Bert Hellinger
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